So new year is approaching and everybody is talking about “New Year New You. and I’ve seen a lot of Instagram posts with people being torn between – a “Yay, let’s conquer 2018” attitude and a “I dread this time of year” type posts. I completely understand why people dread change, but I am one of the former let’s do this and smash 2018 type bubbly people. The type that believes you make your own luck but it’s OK to have a little luck from the universe thrown your way too!
The thing is for a lot of people change is uncomfortable. For a lot of people change is loss, and for a lot of people change is effort. Now the words uncomfortable, loss and effort really don’t instil a lot of joy in the majority of people, so you can understand why the words “New Year New Me” or “New Year New You” are also not instilling a lot of joy in everyone and that’s fine. As I tell my clients, it’s fine the way it is and it’s fine the way it isn’t. The key to happiness is about constant progression forward, so wherever you are in life is fine, so long as you enjoy the journey to your next goal and don’t sit stagnant you will have a life to look back on that makes you smile.
But if there was a way to make small tiny changes in your daily habits and get enormous, gigantic results from them would that interest you? I mean achieving your goals is actually quite simple. I’m not saying it’s easy but it really is not rocket science. Our brain likes to break things down into small tasks and it loves to be rewarded for completing those tasks, yet when a new year comes we decide we want to lose 2 stone or stop smoking or do something really dramatic rather than just committing to losing one pound every week and recommitting each week or increasing our daily exercise by just 5 minutes a time until we get to where we want to be. Nothing has to be off limits, even the occasional doughnut. It’s not about extremes. Moderation and rewards are a way to encourage your brain to achieve your goals.
We make the tasks so big that it’s no wonder that there is a day two weeks after January 1st that is actually called Fail Friday. Now I’m all for everybody having goals because if you’re going to think you might as well think big, but the main thing is to realise that each goal can be broken down in too much smaller manageable goals – that are achievable and it really isn’t so hard to achieve transformation with small steps. Don’t make that leap to your goal seem daunting. Fly through the air effortlessly to your dreams this 2018.
For those who have that little voice in your head preventing you from making those goals… read my top 5 tips on how to declutter your mind ready for 2018.
If you want a little more science behind willpower – you can find out the three best ways to keep your prefrontal cortex happy increasing your willpower in my blog post The Science Behind Willpower.
For those of you ready to take action, get out a pen and paper and write down 3-5 big goals then break it down to manageable, bite size goals that you can do just one step at a time. For each big goal aim for about 20 smaller steps at least. For those of you who want daily inspiration, join me on Facebook Fan Page or if you want to be more engaged and share your goals, join my Facebook group – Love Your Goals. We would love to have you.