Fear of failure is one of the most common fears clients bring up in their sessions. No matter where you are in life, when fear takes hold and makes you think you will lose something, something important, something that you have worked hard for it leaves its mark. When we step outside of our comfort zone, we don’t know what to expect. With so many people putting their identities into their careers we can become so consumed by what we deem to be important that when things happen even a fraction differently we feel in a state of fear because we feel like we are failing. We neglect to see how much we have taken on and how well we are actually doing.
Failure is something many avoid, but successful entrepreneurs know failure is a necessity. That you can’t really lose anything for long because bigger and better is always around the corner. Opportunity lies in any crisis. That lessons to take your life to the next level often lie within what some refer to failure and others refer to as opportunities.
A quote from the character Meredith Grey
“Failure is inevitable, unavoidable, but failure should never get the last word. You have to hold on to what you want. You have to not take no for an answer and take what’s coming to you. Never give in, never give up. Stand up. Stand up and take it.”
People who are afraid of failing are often worried about what people think about them. It stops them in their tracks to pursue their dreams. In turn, they worry that people will lose interest in them and their message which impacts on how capable they feel. It is never easy when you fill your head with concerns about disappointing people who rely on you, who depend on you or look up to you. You can manage expectations by under promising and over delivering but when you lower your standards, you no longer have the drive or ability to envisage what you need to do differently to succeed. For many this results in increased stress and the common outward sign of such is procrastination.
Productivity is the antidote to procrastination. When you face the unknown head-on, you achieve, you move forward, and you attain. When you’re in a cycle of productivity, the ambition to achieve far outweighs any fear that may hold you back. The fear then slips away because you’re existing in your logical brain, moving forward and accomplishing in the present rather than worrying about the past and avoiding your future. Your future is bright and full of your dreams, so the unknown is actually a gift. It’s not about hoping and thinking positively that there is nothing bad, painful or even frightening out there. It is about knowing your wish to get to the other side of fear, outweighs any suffering you could imagine. imagination is always worse than the fear itself and walking into the unknown is how so many entrepreneurs made their name.
Going boldly where no one has gone before, doing everything and more that you need to do, without complaint, without resolve, without stopping, that’s what makes the hairs on the back of people’s neck stand up. That’s what makes them look at you in awe. That’s what also brings out the jealousy, that you had the nerve, valour, gumption, hustle and grit to do that which they didn’t. That you followed your dream, that you didn’t let someone else live your life while you watched in the wings, you went out and grabbed the life you deserve. If you fail so what, get up again and again, and again if you have to. Because if you think you are at the top of your game now, then what is there left to strive for. No one is at the top of the game, there is always another level, there is always something more spectacular to achieve or contribute to this world.
So if you are hesitating, if you are just thinking about it, if you are not sure where to go next, just take the first step forward and go and get your dreams. They won’t wait for you. So don’t wait for them.