The reason why we make Resolutions is to make our life more like the blueprint we have in our head about what makes us feel happy or successful. The problem is that many resolutions end up being no better than a wish list if there is no commitment or follow through. To make a resolutions related to your health, relationships or finances have impact and lasting effect, you have to see no other possibility and make all other unproductive avenues unavailable to yourself.
Achieving constant progression in your life is not easy but it is simple. To successfully follow through with your career objectives you must adapt your rituals, making tweaks to your habits that you can keep to. Progression forward cannot happen until you learn how to take control of your life rather than allowing life to control you. So many people draw a blank when making goal lists because they have a little voice in their head saying you aren’t going to accomplish this so why bother. Or the voice goes on to tell them how much effort it will be.
My clients always achieve their goals. Sometimes we have to adjust timelines but we always get the true desired result in the end. That’s because we break down resolutions into manageable chunks.
Popular Resolutions for my clients 2018
- Commit to positivity/gratitude in the morning
- Find love
- Step away from the phone
- Be compassionate to oneself
- Make time for their passions
- Declutter house, life and mental baggage
- Learn to play an instrument or speak another language
- Cherish me time and use it more wisely – from healthy food preparation to exercising more or destressing
- Read more about more
- Learn how to dress with style
- Be more prolific on social media
- Step away from social media!
- Stop being superstitious
- Detox the people in your life holding you back
- Dryathalon – no alcohol for a set time
- Smile more
- Push out of your comfort zone once a week
- Make wise investments in themselves and for their money
- Become emotionally free, location free and financially free
- Be more accountable
Every year people make New Year resolutions to lose weight, stop smoking, improve relationships and generally look after ourselves better but with a suggested 88% of resolutions failing, something isn’t working for us. When we look at the situation, we expect to make major changes to our lives but many of us do not prepare ourselves for the challenges ahead hence we give up on our dreams. It is clear that your brain is not automatically wired to succeed at keeping resolutions any more than your muscles are automatically wired to succeed at running a marathon without training beforehand yet every year people make resolutions which ask their brain to perform the mental equivalent without understanding what is going on. If you want to know the science behind “Brain Power” behind your resolutions see my blog post here.
My clients often ask me how they can change a particular part of their life be it to stop smoking, lose weight, attract lasting love, let go of the past or overcome a fear that has been holding them back. My answer often surprises them because I simply say “You don’t change you adapt”. All the resolutions above need small adaptations to their lives rather than big ones and that is why they do my 6 step program to get there.
Change happens. You don’t need to work on change as it will happen anyway. Everything in life changes over time. This is automatic. Change is a given. At the base level, most living organisms know they must adapt or die, but humans are quite happy to do the same thing over and over again expecting a different result. Adaptation which leads to progress requires work, effort and commitment but it is progress on a regular basis that makes you feel alive and will help you achieve your dreams.
We live who we believe we are. Human beings absolutely follow through on this without deviation. It is one of our strongest forces to stay consistent with how we define ourselves. Your identity is a reflection of your standards. You will only succeed if your raise your standards and create rituals to support them through consistent action.